Subject: love affair

From: "Brown" <[email-masked]>
Date: Mon, 20 Nov 2006 11:21:41 +0100

Should I be ashamed for staying with him? For many adult-children life was painful as a child, and even severe maltreatment and pain were things that had to be accepted and endured to survive.
I really love him, I believe in our marriage and making it work.
I have been looking to go to counselors, but cannot find one that will meet our needs. Without one or the other component, any treatment you decide on would likely have less of an impact.
He has to want that as well. I wish you two the best for the future and you're in my prayers.
What you can do is nudge him along and let him know that it's a very serious issue to you and it sounds like you have. It can be very frustrating trying to coax someone into getting help if he believes he doesn't need it. I pray that God will bless and heal your marriage Crystal, and if I can be of further service please contact me. If your wife is unable to comply and work things out on a mature manner you will be protecting yourself from further emotional and spiritual damage. Online counseling can work well for the individual component of the therapy.
Do you have any suggestions as to how to find someone in our area or what to look for?
He comes from a family history of domestic violence. But if love is good for all of our souls, then giving grace to others includes learning to include our parents on some level as well. Could a possible phone consult with someone from your staff be made, and if so is a phone consult something an insurance usually pays?
I am a survivor of sexual abuse.
Do you have any suggestions as to how to find someone in our area or what to look for? It may take time for him to come around and warm up to your fiance like you said, but for him to have a genuine change of heart it has to come from him.
A few weeks ago she began to feel compelled to talk to this man again.
If your wife is unable to comply and work things out on a mature manner you will be protecting yourself from further emotional and spiritual damage.
So I told him this was either going to make it or not, but that he had to go.
Or, it may include the need to not overly focus on aspects of what has happened in one's childhood that has caused emotional, mental and even physical scarring that a parent may be responsible for. He is at the mild end of TS thankfully. You may remain anonymous if you like, and patience is required because there's been quite an overwhelming response here and there are many questions waiting in the wings!